For the past week, I have been dealing with computer issues. My computer got a virus. Running through all the various virus and malware scans, I would find more and more undetected trojans and remove them. Thinking each time that I have moved all of it, I would browse normally and my computer would glitch and restart itself. It was this past weekend that I finally threw in the towel and reformatted my hard drive.
What does this have to do with dating and relationships? I am typically a very pensive person. Sometimes my thoughts kind of tangent on and on about things that seemingly don't have any correlation yet somehow I find similarities and at times analogies to other aspects of my life. Well this is one of them.
I think most will agree that a person's computer is a very personal item. In a way a person's computer is a digital representation of a person that interacts with the world through the world wide web. Our computers hold our pictures, music, programs we use, and our accomplishments (resumes, letters, assignments/projects).
It was time for me to give in and start new. I grew tired of this virus making my computer (and sadly in some weird ways, my life) sick. I erased everything and started over. I have an external hard drive so I still have my music, pictures, and important documents. But assume I didn't. I had to sit for a moment and remember all the programs I needed to download again and install (AIM, Yahoo messenger, spybot search and destroy etc). It feels weird. It seems very resminiscent of a post relationship. You have to figure out who you were prior to your relationship. You have to try and recoupe things that you lost and get rid of the things that will only cause you more harm. And as time passes you learn from all the things you did in the past and try to improve yourself in your future behaviors, actions, and relationships. And though you continue to add more and more things in your life, it is never the same as it was before. Each relationship has its own unique spin and feel.
So my question is, when is it time to end a relationship (dating, bf/gf, or even marriage)? How can you tell when you have done everything in your power to make things work but ultimately realize it is time to move on?
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